Like many people, you may never want thoughts about death to enter your head, especially regarding your own death. If you're aging, plans for memorials or funerals may be assumed to be the responsibility of children, grandchildren, or other relatives. However, death could arrive at any moment; you may want to ponder the situation and consider how best to set up your own future service and burial. Here are a few reasons why:
Relatives Will Be Distraught
If your bond with relatives is a strong one, the news that you've died will ripple throughout the family and cause emotional waves that are hard to navigate. People may cry or become depressed; some relatives may not act as they're expected to, finding themselves surprised and deeply upset. Asking them to arrange a memorial or funeral at their weakest time is something you probably wish to spare them.
In addition, grieving, sad relatives will not mind spending lavishly on funeral supplies and costs even if they don't usually spend that way. Buying a coffin or urn now and keeping it for later use will allow you to compare costs and sensibly purchase what you'll need. That action will help relatives later. Look for plots or plan resting places for cremains so that your sad relatives aren't obliged to handle those issues.
You Know Yourself
Even well-meaning loved ones can plan a memorial or service that doesn't reflect you at all. They may wish to show you the highest esteem, for instance, and hold a solemn service. When you plan, on the other hand, your service can be a lively celebration instead, packed with your favorite songs and bright colors if you choose. This planning is best done now so there's no mistaking what you really want.
You Know Guests Best
Your relatives may know your close friends and some work acquaintances. However, they might not know the woman at the convenience store you gossip with every week. They may not know the name of your first date or your mechanic, much less that you'd want them at your memorial or funeral service. Creating a list of guests ensures those who are important in your life are there to share the experience.
If you can remember these reasons for setting up your personal memorial service, you can do the job without feeling too sad. Work with a local funeral home to make arrangements; the staff can be solid partners through the planning and execution of your service when the time comes.Share